It's hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing 'right,' which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will actually disappear.
We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated.
Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs.
I used to be afraid of pain, didn't take a lot of risks, especially in love. I'm not as afraid anymore. I'm more spontaneous, more likely to say what I think.
Feel what you feel, know what you know, and set your relatives free to do the same.
Relationships are where we take our recovery on the road.
