I get it now; I didn't get it then. That life is about losing and about doing it as gracefully as possible...and enjoying everything in between.
Women in Africa, generally a lot needs to be done for women. Women are not being educated, not only in Angola but my trip to Nigeria, one point I would make over and over again was that women need to be educated too.
I don't think you can be a Catholic without an accompanying measure of guilt.