Women's courage is rather different from men's. The fact that women have to bring up children and look after husbands makes them braver at facing long-term issues, such as illness. Men are more immediately courageous. Lots of people are brave in battle.
They may turn out to be a great disappointment, or perhaps they may be full of enchanting surprises.
People try much less hard to make a marriage work than they used to fifty years ago. Divorce is easier.
I don't write for any particular kind of person.
Unimaginative people are spared quite a lot. They're often much happier, because they don't go through all the variety of conceptions of the person they love.