Have you ever heard of SMART goals? It’s basically the idea that your goals should be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time Bound. Meaning, you should know exactly what can actually accomplish; it should be meaningful to you; and it should have a deadline.
You see, when we set goals that feel safer and achievable, we are caving in to our own preconceived notions of what we are capable of. We’re not pushing past our comfort zone; we’re just settling for status quo.
If your ultimate goal is not to have a home that looks like it belongs in a magazine or to drive a Cadillac Escalade, then what sense does it make to compare yourself - or your home or your vehicle - to the friends who has made that her primary objective?