Whether you try too hard to fit in or you try too hard to stand out, it is of equal consequence: you exhaust your significance.
The difference between real life and a story is that life has significance, while a story must have meaning. The former is not always apparent, while the latter always has to be, before the end.
When you live for the purpose of making a difference for the people, for society, for the things that are beyond you, then significance will not be able to elude you.
Finding meaning for life is simply coming into significance because you have been able to accomplish and fulfill your purpose.
If you have committed all things to impacting a life at a time, or impacting a community or society, then welcome to a life of significance.
It is a good thing to live long but it is much more important to make a difference in life by living a life of significance.