Life can be so beautiful and wickedly cruel all at the same time. For it allows us to see what it is we want to see, before the truth comes along and smacks us hard in the face with a sledgehammer.
A good way to ascertain what matters to you is to imagine the following: You wake up in the morning to the realisation that you have but a day to live. How would you want to spend that day? Who would you want to spend that time with?